At some point or another we all ask ourselves how to maintain a happy relationship that will “happily” last forever. The reality of relationships is that it sometimes never goes as planned. When you have “relationship” issues, the best thing to do is talk about resolving them.
In the excerpt below read one interesting perspective from Joan Winifred of Partners in Wellness:
When sick, we all want to get better. We do what it takes or what we think it will take to get better soon. Who likes being sick? I don’t! We rest, take vitamins, enzymes, eat chicken soup, drink tea with lemon/honey, etc.
When you have a cold and/or allergies, you know you are feeling better when you stop sneezing. Perhaps relationships are like that? You know it’s better when you stop yelling and fighting; having negative interactions most of the time and when you share a positive moment, a hug, loving word, or laugh. Symptoms of a sick relationship simply stop!
It might just be a matter of time…some things need more time than others. Some things need more love. Some things need more respect. We have to WORK at keeping “important” relationships/partnerships as healthy as possible, as well as non-toxic or damaging. However, it starts with self. We all have issues, imperfections, “symptoms” (myself very much included!). If we don’t work on getting better inwardly, or less symptomatic, are we spreading our symptoms/issues around?
Relationships are work and not the 9 to 5 kind of work where you clock in and not be seen nor heard for 8 hrs. Maybe this happens during sleep but no one is really working on their relationship while sleeping. Some might be, but these are mostly called dream states.
Here’s a formula for a happy relationship: “Women want to be loved. Men want to be respected. Simple enough, isn’t it?
That is how we are wired, or created, if you will. If you want to be loved, are you lovable? If you want respect, are you respectable? We cannot control how someone else acts or feels. We may influence, motivate, encourage, lead, push or pull them in the direction we would like them to go, but ultimately, they have to go there themselves. And to go there they have to want to.
How To Maintain A Happy Relationship
Learn to let go. It’s all okay. Learn to stop micromanaging. No couple matches up 100%. There will be things that annoy or tick you off. You just want the good things to outweigh the ticking off things.
One of the main characters you control in your relationship is YOU!
How to maintain a happy relationship is worth the effort as it may only be a few tweaks here and there but will increase your overall happiness together exponentially. Have fun together and laugh a lot!
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